Today is Sunday. My favorite day for lying around and thinking about the Florida woman and how I might better serve her by defining her in an intuitive way.
And today, my thoughts turn to Florida’s single mother.
You see, you’re blogger/narrator has been a single mother. My kids often referred to me as “MOD” or mom also functioning as the dad.
Initial research was spurred a couple months back by Anne Coulter. When she appeared on “The View”, I decided it was time to stand up, brush myself off and own this single mom thing once and for all.
To my delight, I have discovered a big, bright and shiny world of MODs out there. Twittering, blogging, texting, eviting and in general supporting each other on issues only another MOD could truly understand.
Smart. Strong. Capable. I completely adore Ms Single Mama and now read and am sustained by every little thing she blogs about. I must have watched her YouTube video directed at Anne Coulter’s book “Guilty” at least five times. Where have I been?
I initially defined the MOD as Mom Also Functioning As Dad.
But four days ago, while on a Kinkos mission, I spied a shingle hung on the wall next to the managers door with”MOD” in big all caps letters. What? Huh? I was told that it referred to the designated “Manager On Duty”. Things were coming together.
While throwing in another load of laundry after the toilet overflowed (consider this my coming out day), it dawned on me that MOD could also mean “modification”. At some point, we lost the parts that weren’t serving us (from nail appointments to husbands) and replaced them with our own custom made parts (often found at Home Depot). Or we may have made choices right from the start that weren’t standard, much to the chagrin of the status quo, and so the process of modification began.
Either way, at some point we MODS realized that it is better to live this life of ours as ours. Better for us and better for our kids. It may be hard and it may be unconventional. But we (The MODS) strive to make it hip, cool, quirky and wonderful for our kids.
Hey, we’re mothers. We want to do what’s right.
And it seems, according to the blogs, we are having fun doing it. This new MOD thing is ours and we define and live it better each and every day.
On second thought, my marketing friend points out, all of this feels very POST MODERN. We google and find the term has many wiki meanings including ” something concerned with changes to institutions and conditions”.
So, in the end, we define a MOD as an actualized woman raising actualized kids.
She’s not kept and she’s not the current marketers’ vision of a mother.
She’s modified, modern, manager on duty, mom also dad and just plain cool as far as her kids are concerned.
SO HOW SHOULD A MARKETER TALK TO THE FLORIDA MOD?
Give your MOD TLC. Help her anyway you can by making her life easier.
Give your MOD respect. We want to be recognized for raising the next generation of Presidents. We want to be heard.
Give your MOD a chance to win. We like to win at.
There are a lot of things we need because the world doesn’t make it easy for us.
Make it easy for us.
And we’ll love you forever.